Hot Girl + Nerd Culture = Poser.
Recently, GEEKPR0N has been under a bit a fire from net trolls accusing some of our girls of being posers. Why? The most common complaint seems to be “she’s too sexy to be a nerd.” For some reason, any hot girl claiming to be a nerd is automatically challenged. What’s worse, girls are the only ones who are challenged in this regard.
Even our sisters rally against us. In the article “Dear Fake Geek Girls, Please Go Away” by Forbes contributor, Tara Brown, she states “Pretentious females who have labeled themselves as a “geek girl” figured out that guys will pay a lot of attention to them if they proclaim they are reading comics or playing video games.”
All types of women exist in geek culture yet it’s the fact that they’re are even there that seems to offend. Attractiveness aside, any women who shows the slightest interest in anything nerdy is not met with open arms but with arrogance.
Those of us who were ultra dorky and awkward in our youth still hold that candle even today. Despite our successes, it was those experiences that helped shape us. So to have your kin, those who stood next to you holding that same candle turn on you and accuse you of pandering is downright infuriating.
Like most, my childhood was no picnic. Before the age of 17 I had moved around 27 times and attended 10 different schools. I was always the tallest, newest, and typically the only black kid. Needless to say I got picked on. Girls used to throw hair brushes at me in the hall and leave fake “secret admirer” notes in my locker among countless other cruel jokes. Even the girls I thought were my friends turned on me. The boys paid no attention to me, and any affection I showed toward them was met with laughter and humiliation. I would often opt out of social situations to stay home and play on my Genesis and save myself any further embarrassment.
Unlike my fleeting “friends”, videogames were there for me, and I was content. In 1989, I got my very first, second-hand NES complete with bugs. Over the next 23 years videogames would become one of my best friends. Never judging and always up for a play date videogames allowed me to take out my frustrations or simply to pass time. Today my gaming addiction continues to blossom with better gear.
So, let me ask you, Nerd Elitists, does this make me a “real” geek? Or am I a poser too because I didn’t have an Atari when it was released, 8 years before I was born?
I’ve addressed the “poser” issues a few times, mostly in passing because quite honestly I think it’s fucking ridiculous.
Nerds can blame the “others” for poaching on their territory, but from what I’ve seen, the nerds are just as guilty.
Remember how awful it felt to be excluded in high school? That’s exactly what nerds are doing to everyone else today. Maybe you feel that you’re entitled to shit on others because you were once shit on. Maybe you’re right. But did that ever make the world a better place? Did being excluded, picked on and alienated motivate you to want to be like those who picked on you in high school? No, it made you wish for fairness, and equality. So what happened?
Mainstream power, that’s what happened. Now that geek chic is all the rage the self-proclaimed “real” nerds feel we have a monopoly on everything we’ve decided was ours.
Many people, including Patton Oswalt, agree that it’s easy to become a nerd. In his article ”Wake up, Geek Culture. Time to die”, Patton notes that the internet has made it possible to learn about everything instantly without doing the leg work; something that apparently distinguishes legitimate nerds from posers. While I understand his frustration I don’t agree. You can be a fanatical about anything at anytime. When and where it happened shouldn’t matter. We own nothing. Sure, we might have been into it before anyone else but does that mean nobody else is allowed in? If we start excluding people where does it end?
For a culture that embraces the differences between Elves, Dwarves, Klingon and Sith, we seem to be extremely prejudice towards other humans who just wanna see what all the fuss is about. All we are doing is creating an even deeper divide. If we wanna live in the time of Star Trek, we better learn to move past the trivial.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not pretending the mainstream hasn’t totally raped nerd culture for its own benefit. I’m not blind to that fact that there really are people who are faking it or using a combination of sex and nerd culture to sell their products. At the same time, nerds are partially to blame for this. Since the golden age of comic books, artists have been dressing female characters in ridiculously revealing “costumes” to sell their books to male readers. Sex and nerd culture have been partners since day one, so I find it kind of hypocritical that geeks are suddenly offended that this is happening in the mainstream. I guess it was OK when it was just our dirty little secret.
Attractive women being a part of nerd culture was never a problem until they became flesh and blood humans. This is confusing. I thought nerdy guys wanted a beautiful girl who shares their interests. Instead of embracing these women, you ostracize them. You drill them for information, challenge them with obscure trivia and the second they don’t know the answer to everything you label them posers while objectifying them during the process. The problem lies not with the women, but with the men who continue to treat women as though they are these scantily clad superheroines in the real world.
As a woman who is deeply submerged in geek culture and finds intelligent, dorky boys particularly attractive, this is a HUGE turn off. Within 5 min of meeting, you’re essentially calling me a liar and acting as though you are superior. Not a great first impression.
Even if you do come across a girl who is faking it or new to the club, instead of calling her out, teach Lady Padawan. Clearly she’s interested; otherwise she wouldn’t be trying to impress you. If you approach the situation differently, you might be pleasantly surprised by the result.
Bottom line, this all needs to stop. Fake nerds, real nerds, who cares? Why are we letting ourselves become the very thing we’ve always hated? There is no hierarchy and those of you who disagree need to stop pouting and learn to share. We are all humans with common goals and interests. Why isn’t that enough?